Thursday, October 01, 2009

Kids Say the Darndest Things: Mercury and Communicating with your Child


Amy Herring has been a professional astrologer for 15 years and a proud mother for 4 of those years. She has joyfully accepted Mlle. Kiddie’s gracious offer to share her thoughts once a month here at Kiddie Star Signs. To find out more about Amy and her personal readings for parents and children, visit her website at http://heavenlytruth.com.

Money and fame don’t solve every problem. Celebrity moms have their hopes and worries for their children too. However, I’d like to offer ‘everyday’ moms a chance to see astrology put into action to answer their parenting questions. After all, famous or not, you’re the world to your kids! If you’ve got a question about your child that you’d like Amy to answer, send your questions to amy@heavenlytruth.com.

In astrology, Mercury is the representation of our mind and our voice. When analyzing Mercury's sign and house placement in someone's chart, we can begin to understand how that person thinks, their learning style, how they talk (and listen!), and generally how their mind works. Communication is a key issue for anyone when we're trying to understand and be understood, but between parents and children, it can be quite crucial. Nurturing a child's Mercurial function helps them to feel understood, so that they don't need to yell because they feel like you aren't paying attention to them, or get frustrated and stop communicating at all, as well as teaching them how to speak about their thoughts and needs in a way that makes it easier for others to understand them.

Let's see this in action. Shannon from London asks: "I have a difficult time communicating with my teenage son Jacob. It seems whatever I say, he disputes. He always has an opinion on something and is great at debating but it gets tiresome when we're always arguing and polarizing. Is there anything in his chart that can shed some light?"

This is a great question and one that takes us way beyond Mercury. However, we'll focus just on Mercury for now. Mercury falls in the sign of Capricorn in the 1st house for Jacob. Capricorn represents the process of coming into one's own authority and a sense of capability and independence. Capricorn aligns with the classic , archetypal images of authority: Boss, Teacher, Parent, The Law. It is an earth sign, indicating a tendency to think in logical terms, defining what is and is not with clarity and sometimes not a lot of wiggle room for the gray areas. He wants to communicate clearly but has definite ideas about the proper way to know and define things.

In the first house, he is learning to trust his own ideas and act on them. The first house is the house of self, before self-esteem, before relationships, but just who am I and more importantly, how can I make a stamp on the world around me? So with Mercury in the first house in Capricorn, Jacob is learning how best to send his ideas out into the world and be recognized and respected for them. As he is learning to do these things, he may encounter difficulty with topics that are 'gray areas', whether that means they are not factual or scientific, or there is more than one answer, or the delicate issue of what's right on the emotional or spiritual plane that may not fit into the concrete, logical plane easily. One of Capricorn's vulnerability is to focus too much on the ends, the outcome, rather than the process, and therefore he can have a difficulty with realizing that sometimes it's the process that teaches and sustains us, rather than the outcome. So he intends to come across strong and matter of fact, and if you can communicate with him from a logical and practical angle, he is more likely to receive your message.

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